I dislike Valentine’s Day. Always have. It’s a Hallmark holiday, not a real one. It’s a day that puts so much pressure on men and women alike.
It’s just nuts. Some men run around buying gifts that perhaps they’re not ready to buy (ie diamond rings), whilst some women run around wondering if her man bought her the gift he’s not ready to buy (the same diamond ring). I feel so bad for these people. Imagine the letdown when the gift isn’t what they were expecting. Seriously, this day brings on so much angst it’s incredible.
It’s also a day that singles out “single” people. It’s like a huge neon sign following them around all day, “I’m single, no one wants me, and I don’t have a Valentine’s date.” I know plenty of single people who are fine with not having a “date” for Valentine’s Day — who are single by choice. It’s kind of like grade school, when we bought those boxes of valentines to fill out for our classmates. Everyone would count to see how many valentines’ they received. Of course, the most popular kids would rub it in to those less fortunate.
There are singles mixers on Valentine’s Day, special events to make them feel special. I’m sorry I think that’s rather rude. I think the plan that the gals in the “Sex and the City” movie had was right on – dinner, then a vicious slasher movie after. Of course that didn’t happen, but they weren’t letting their single status interfere with the “Valentine’s Day” barrage.
On the other hand, couples get bombarded with flower offers, candy offers, romantic dinners and getaways. There are lists for the “things that women want.” It’s incredible. Did you know, that the price for roses for Valentine’s Day is almost 200% what they would normally be? It’s the flower that says the most and is the most wanted…red, in particular. Red roses — symbol of love.
“Red roses are the traditional symbol for love and romance, and a time-honored way to say “I love you.” The red rose has long symbolized beauty and perfection. A bouquet of red roses is the perfect way to express your deep feelings for someone special.” **
Well, what if you don’t want red roses? Personally, I’m a yellow rose person, not a fan of red ones. Does that mean I don’t want love in my life? No, it just means I prefer yellow over red.
“The bright, sunny color of yellow roses evokes a feeling of warmth and happiness. The warm feelings associated with the yellow rose are often akin to those shared with a true friend. As such, the yellow rose is an ideal symbol for joy and friendship.”**
I have a married friend who insists on receiving the entire package for Valentine’s Day. Flowers, candy, dinner out, the works. Years ago, her husband and mine were working together on Valentine’s Day. My friends’ husband had to run around town getting everything — he had been so busy, he almost forgot. If he didn’t bring anything home, there would have been hell to pay. He noticed that my husband was not buying anything and asked why. My husband explained that I told him very early on in our marriage, that I did not want anything for Valentine’s Day. Zip, nada, ever. My friends’ husband was incredulous and was sure my husband wasn’t telling the truth. When I got home from work that day, there was a small plant of mini-roses with a horribly mushy card sitting on the dining room table. Husband was nowhere to be found. When he got home, I asked him what the deal was. He said he did it to shut his friend up! Hence the small plant and the mushiest card he could find. He knew how I felt and made an “inside” joke of it. I especially detest mushy cards – of any kind. My friend thought he was being a cheapskate!
Here’s the thing — I believe you should celebrate Valentine’s Day every day, not just one day of the year. If it’s only for one day, I have an anniversary that means so much more and could be my Valentine’s Day. After 25 years, it’s considerably more special than February 14th of any year.
Love and showing that love, isn’t a one day thing…it’s an everyday thing and should be shared daily, not just on Valentine’s Day. All Valentine’s Day does is make people nuts and merchants richer.
(Note: I originally wrote this February 12, 2009 on my old Blog – I haven’t changed my mind.)